Healthy relationships are the key to a happy and healthy life!! Some of us function better alone, and some of us strive when people are around us. Wherever we go – people are there. With my time traveling, I have built many types of relationships. Friends that would stay forever, friendships that wasted time, relationships that opened up doors and some that make you shake your head. We learn so much from each other and sometimes coming out of our comfort zones, open up relationships you never even knew existed.
I can still remember my mother’s eyes filling up with tears when I told her I want to travel and teach. “Only one year,” I remember I promised. I am currently going into my sixth year living abroad. This was an enormous step into the unknown. I am a small town farm girl that spent most of my time in mud and with animals and hated going to the city with all the busy things. I packed my bags and off I went.
Without my parents support, this whole transition would have been a disaster. I remember calling home in my first few months a little sad because I miss a decent piece of steak and the quietness of the farm and my mother then replying, “only a little bit more.” I knew both my parents really wanted me to be home and close to where it’s “safe,” but I also saw in their eyes that I had the opportunity that they never had. After my third year abroad, they finally stopped asking when I will be coming home for real. They helped me so much in the first few months with care packages, letters, and simple messages. “Go see the world, my child” – was in every message.
I went to boarding school for 12 years, so being away wasn’t really a problem. There was so much excitement in EVERYTHING around me. Without my parents being strong – I possibly would not have made it this far.
What a “cliché,” I know. But in all seriousness, my boyfriend has been my BIGGEST supporter. In my years of traveling, I have never felt that I needed “that” person. I was pretty happy before I met him and I think that contributed to the fact that we have a very healthy relationship. We both were happy people and knew what we wanted. We did not need each other; we wanted each other. Now, as lame as this might sound, Brendan is honestly my biggest fan. He picks me up when I have fallen; he pushes me to be better and greater. He makes me realize more than I even think I can handle or do. With him by my side, I can concur the world.
Believe me; we do have our differences. I am South-African, and he is Canadian. Our foundations, pieces of our culture, some beliefs even are different, but we manage to get along just fine. With the key points being communication, honesty, and respect, our relationship manage to grow every day. We are both out of our comfort zones and a very raw version of ourselves. I do believe that this is the best way to be with one another.
He is part of the reason why I am doing my MA in Early Childhood Development. He made me realize my full potential and all the great things I can reach.
All we need sometimes is that someone who believes in us!
In the photo posted below, we represent five different nationalities. That means five different ways of being, doing and saying things. Some of us are more girly than the other, the tomboys, the artists, the fashionistas, we are such complete different human beings. When moving to another country, making friendships can go two ways. Great – or it just does not work. With these girls, I can just be myself. I did take us a while to get used to each other and our ways, but very soon we realized how important these relationships we are building are. This might be a horrible thing to say, but with a lot of people I meet during my travels, I would never have even looked at twice in my home-country to befriend. I tell my girlfriends this a lot too. But we are all in the same boat. We are far from home, we want to travel, and we want to teach. With the same goals in mind, all our differences seem to disappear.
In my first few years, I had many friendships – but they were just there. As I got older and we all mature, we realized that these bonds we create can save us. We cry together, oh boy do we fight, we make up, we laugh, we judge each other, but these are friendships and relationships we could never change. Being friends with people I would have never been friends with at home, showed me just how we look at the cover or first impressions of a book. Once we start to read, the world starts to change, and we grow so much as individuals and together. With our cultural differences, beliefs, and backgrounds, we come together, open-minded and just be there for each other.
My top 5 reasons why relationships are important:
1. Relationships fulfill your most important need of all
2. Relationships are the place where your greatest joy comes from
3. Only through relationships can you give lasting impact to others
4. Through relationships, you have the people to support you in times of trouble
5. Eventually, relationships are the only things that matter
“When people are dying they do not think about their achievements and awards. They don’t care whether they are rich or famous. All those things become meaningless when people are face-to-face with death. All they want is having the people they love around them. They want the warm of love to be with them in their last moments. Nothing else matters. They realize that, eventually, relationships are the only things that matter. We should not wait until that moment come. We’d better realize it now.” -written by Life Optimizer